Trans-people who successfully pass, what differences did you notice in the way people treated you compared to your birth gender?
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I'm a university professor. I started my job presenting as female. Now I present as male. At least some of my students believe I am a cisgender (= opposite of transgender) male. There's a very real difference in how they respond to me. I get far fewer bullshit complaints and excuse, especially around technology. Students apparently thought that female me would buy their BS, but don't try that shit on male me. There's a big difference in my course evals. I've always been a hardass. Female me was 'a bitch' and 'mean'. Male me is 'tough but fair'. I wear pretty much the same clothes, have the same decorations in my office. Female me was 'unprofessional'. Male me is 'cool, relatable'. There are more comments about my actual skills as a professor (knowledge of content, clarity of presentation) and fewer about my personality and appearance. It's a real difference, and it's depressing to think that my women colleagues are still stuck with that shit.
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It's weird. As a cis woman, I have always bonded with other women easier. I've known plenty of bitches and overly competitive girls, certainly, but no more than guys. There generally aren't many people I gel with full stop. But close female friendships are amazing, or just feeling the support of other kind women.
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I noticed that mechanics (specializing in old, British cars) treated me like an illiterate child, whereas before transitioning my opinions and ideas were respected.
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I wish I could explain in words how much better I am treated as a transman with passing privilege, than the stone butch lesbian I was before transitioning. There is a distinct difference in the dynamics of how people treat men and women there are challenges on both sides socially, economically, romantically... No life is easy to live, but living as the gender you feel you are takes one struggle off the plate. Isnt that what everyone wants is a little less stress?
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"The thing you said about guys being more open is so true. My husband has a friend who only talks to my husband about business stuff and more "serious" topics, but when he talks to me, he'll ask about dating advice, why so and so did this, how hurt he feels because x girl did y or why girls do x y z. Never once has he mentioned those things to my husband. I feel like guys will open up more because maybe they don't want to be told to toughen up or that it's nbd by other guys. "
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Female co workers tend to get yelled at by guest more. I've noticed I deal with a lot less bs from them. When I tell them they can't do something they listen versus before they used to scream at me and call me names .
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Thats exactly how I feel. I don't feel out of place in my body, I just want to be treated the same as men. A lot of people don't seem to understand what I'm talking about when I bring this feeling up.
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"Google the story of Ben Barnes Barres, world famous neuroscientist, and FtM trans guy. 2 quotes (paraphrased) stick out: "It's nice to be able to finish my sentences w/o interruption." And "Another scientist complimented me on the quality of my research, said it was much better than my sister's." (there is no sister) "
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Trans woman. My mum is much more protective of me, constantly warning me about this and that danger. She's also more judgmental about my appearance. I love her to bits and I don't think she did it on purpose, but it's definitely interesting being able to compare my experiences as a daughter vs as a son. My favorite was one day where I wore a top that showed a lot of cleavage, and she said I dress too much like a white girl
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Female-to-male here. I'm terribly shy, and prior to transitioning, people were more accepting on my timidness when I approach people and such. Now, almost 6 years post Testosterone and definitely 'passing,' my timidness just appears more awkward and people do get taken it back. I noticed that customer service people, especially males, are more direct and sometime more rude than prior to testosterone.
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