Whats the worst text to send a girl after a first date?

the absolute worst thing you can do is hit them with a "so, what did you think?" text right after getting home. it just reeks of insecurity and puts way too much pressure on the other person to perform. honestly, when i've been on dates, i’ve learned that playing it cool is way better. if you're already asking for a grade on your performance, it makes the whole thing feel like a job interview instead of a genuine connection.

another big no-no is the "u up?" text late at night after a decent first date. unless things went way differently than expected, it comes off as super disrespectful and makes it seem like you're just looking for a hookup. i had a buddy try this once and he was basically blocked before the sun came up. keep it simple, maybe just a "thanks for the coffee/drinks, had a good time" and leave it at that. let the vibe settle before you try anything else.