My sister is about to run off and drop out of school to be with her scumbag boyfriend.

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Nerissa · Accepted Answer

Join the club. My 17 year old sister is about to marry her scumbag 20 year old boyfriend. Before they got together, she wanted to be a cosmetologist. Now she wants to be a trophy wife to this guy who has big plans for med school, but is as dumb as a rock.  This has been a two year ordeal for my family, and the only thing I can tell you is that you have to let it go. I went through periods of intense hatred for him (I still hate him... actually I dreamed last night that I stabbed him in the groin with a pair of scissors), extreme sadness when I realized that she and I no longer have any sort of relationship, and finally reached a point where, as selfish as it sounds, it's better her than you. You can only control yourself and your decisions, and this may be one that she has to learn for herself. You said that you're worried it will limit her options. It will. There's no way that it won't. But, like I realized, you have to just let her figure it out for herself, and hope th

Sanni-Kaisa · Answer

I'd beat the ever loving fuck out of him. I mean bad enough where HE WILL FUCKING STAY AWAY. Either that or except the fact kid sis will be knocked up AND on meth inside of two months.

hina · Answer

Offer Todd PS100 to fuck of out of her life. Probably never seen so many notes at once and will vanish into the bottom of a small pile of cocaine and (hopefully) overdose.

Tyyni · Answer

"I know everyone is like, "oh save this poor girl," but at the end of the day she can't be that much better than this dipshit she's dating. No wholesome, intelligent girl falls in love with an idiot like that. And at 17 she's well beyond the childish whims stage, or should be. I certainly was by senior year. I'd say stop putting your (dumb) sister on a pedestal and start revising the image of her you have in your head. Yeah she's fucking up with a fuck up, but maybe she's a fuck up too. She shouldn't need to be told, but just tell her how fucking dumb she's being and if she goes through with it all just cut ties to whatever extent you want. You gave the warning and she shat on her life, not your problem. "

Pincas · Answer

You can only wait it out and let your sister know that you'll be there for her in case she ever wises up to the giant mistake she's making. Such are crazy relatives/friends.

Danni · Answer

Don't worry. I'll take care of her.

Abelard · Answer

Her life, give a word or two, then stay away . People are generally hard

Christin Jaeger · Answer

Tough situation. If your lil sis is anything like mine then arguing and yelling just don't get through to her. Talking might but getting her to sit down and actually listen, may not be easy.  I know people have suggested just leaving her to it, and I hate to say it but they may be right. It seems that the only way she will learn from this, is when she makes some mistakes. The downside is that these will be huge as in not finishing school when she's so close, therefore not being able to get into university, etc.  I think you're just gonna have to be cool about this somehow. Keep schtum and just be there for her hoping that she'll come to her senses and when that happens, she'll come to you.

Gerd-Marie · Answer

This happened to me... my younger (half) sister decided to get knocked up and drop out of 10th grade to be with a total loser who had already dropped out and was arraigned and awaiting trial on assault charges. We tried everything to show her it was a bad idea, and nothing worked.  I haven't spoken to her in a few years (b/c she accused me of trying to run her life), but I know she's in public housing and working a part-time gig job doing something menial. My advice: Try and appeal to her, but tell her straight up that you know you can't make her do anything (b/c you can't). If she feels like you're pushing her, it may push her further away.

VERONIQUE · Answer

you have to explain to her that this isnt the right thing for her to do in the long run.. but all in all, sometimes kids have to make some bad decisions to learn from.

hava · Answer

There's nothing you can do about Jane, because she has already established that she is going to do what she wants, with or without your blessing.  Offer to provide her free birth control so she doesn't get knocked up by this douchebag.  Remain in contact with her and keep her self-esteem in check but don't force the issue about schooling or anything with her because she will stop contacting you.  Eventually, she will come to her senses and will need to get her GED, etc., but in the meantime, just keep her at safe and healthy distance, but don't alienate or lecture her.  She's just gotta go through on her own this until she realizes what a giant mistake she has made, and she will, and will need your support when that time comes.  Hang tight.

Harpreet · Answer

You won't be able to stop her. So, if you talk to her about it, you're just gonna piss her off. Let her go. She needs to see this through.

Fithawit · Answer

Get your popcorn ready!

Kevan · Answer

Todd sounds like a special person and not in the good special olympics way. I have to admit that bulbasaour or bubbassours as todd put it is hilarious. What an idiot! Now here is what you do... Send your sister to some vacation or retreat for a month. Once she is gone start emailing Todd photoshoped pictures of her with another guy. Next change your sisters phone number (tell her it was an issue with the verizon account). Lastly send the pictures to Todd via your sisters facebook. Once this is complete delete her face book and any other form of communication she may have with the idiot. On a side note your sister is probably going to get pregnant with a retarded pokemon trainer.

Kirstie · Answer

you could always kill him

Evan · Answer

All you can do is tell her how you feel. I'd focus on not dropping out of school and not the boyfriend though. It's tough for a girl that age to see past her affection for him, but she might see reason if you talk about school. One more year, just keep saying that. If you can get her to finish school she'll likely break up with him before long.

Mimoza · Answer

You haven't given any explanation as to why we should care.

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