I’m just some guy, but this is what I think. 1) Get the fuck out of that house… or at least stay away from the house as much as possible. One’s environment is the worst sapper of spirit imho. 2) I assume you have fields of interest, books, drugs, guns, philosophy, whatever it is… Participate in life, go to events surrounding your interests. Talk to others about your interests irl, eventually you’ll meet some people interested in your interests. 3) If 1 & 2 don’t cut it, get back in school. Go to community college w/e get your education up because it will enable higher future income and more independence. Plus it’s a social environment where you can meet other people in your age range and approx. life situation. 4) Only blame a ‘disorder’ as a matter of last resort. It seems like there’s a lot of things within your power to change about your life it just takes the sack to do it. Find what you want and GET it. Just some opinions, hope it helps.
Financial constraints are BS. Move out. If you can hold any job, you’ll find a way to make it. Seek out ads for a roommate and find a ghetto apartment to rent far away from your parents. Putting distance between you and your family is a real quick way to grow up. Drop the stupid thoughts about finding a girlfriend. If your life was a cake, girls are the icing. Trying to ice a cake you haven’t finished baking is just going to make a mess. More important is to focus on your social life. Seek out where people your own age. Even in a shitty town, there’s probably one or two bars or clubs young people go. Otherwise, you can go downtown to the nearest city on the weekends.
Try and make a plan to get out mate. Seriously, once you’ve got something in place, possibly with a date in mind, you should feel much better. Do you have any family somewhere else? Can you try and score a job somewhere else? What are your finanical constraints. I think once you’re out of the rut you’re in, things should improve for you.
“Move out. Read your own post. It is not your problem to support all of these other people. Cut them loose and cut your losses. If I were you, I would carefully prepare, pack up all my shit, write a “Dear John” letter, and get the hell out of there. Don’t confront them, don’t discuss your plans, just leave. Move to another city, preferably far away, change your phone number, and abandon these vampires. Harsh? Yup. Life is harsh sometimes. The longer you stay in your situation, the longer you perpetuate these people’s dependency on you. It is the responsibility of adults to fend for themselves, it is not your problem. Get the fuck outta there. “
“Well..when I read your title I was going to recommend you hang out with my 30 year old brother who doesn’t have women or friends too. Once I read your story….I felt bad about even thinking about suggesting that. I wish I knew what to say to you though to offer some guidance. I used to kind of have the same problem… it was mainly due to the fact that I hated going out and having to “meet” people. I’ve always been more of a “listener” than a talker and never wanted to be the center of attention for that reason. I enjoyed observing. I don’t know how, but I’ve always managed to have a large circle of friends and they’re all the types that go out in groups and have a great time at bars and clubs. I honestly can’t even tell you how I’ve met any of them…lol. I guess one person would introduce me to one person and it would just kinda blossom. I wish you luck though! “
I’m just some guy, but this is what I think. 1) Get the fuck out of that house… or at least stay away from the house as much as possible. One’s environment is the worst sapper of spirit imho. 2) I assume you have fields of interest, books, drugs, guns, philosophy, whatever it is… Participate in life, go to events surrounding your interests. Talk to others about your interests irl, eventually you’ll meet some people interested in your interests. 3) If 1 & 2 don’t cut it, get back in school. Go to community college w/e get your education up because it will enable higher future income and more independence. Plus it’s a social environment where you can meet other people in your age range and approx. life situation. 4) Only blame a ‘disorder’ as a matter of last resort. It seems like there’s a lot of things within your power to change about your life it just takes the sack to do it. Find what you want and GET it. Just some opinions, hope it helps.
Sounds like you would do well to have a word with a psychiatrist.
I have 2 friends Liar.
Financial constraints are BS. Move out. If you can hold any job, you’ll find a way to make it. Seek out ads for a roommate and find a ghetto apartment to rent far away from your parents. Putting distance between you and your family is a real quick way to grow up. Drop the stupid thoughts about finding a girlfriend. If your life was a cake, girls are the icing. Trying to ice a cake you haven’t finished baking is just going to make a mess. More important is to focus on your social life. Seek out where people your own age. Even in a shitty town, there’s probably one or two bars or clubs young people go. Otherwise, you can go downtown to the nearest city on the weekends.
Try and make a plan to get out mate. Seriously, once you’ve got something in place, possibly with a date in mind, you should feel much better. Do you have any family somewhere else? Can you try and score a job somewhere else? What are your finanical constraints. I think once you’re out of the rut you’re in, things should improve for you.
“Move out. Read your own post. It is not your problem to support all of these other people. Cut them loose and cut your losses. If I were you, I would carefully prepare, pack up all my shit, write a “Dear John” letter, and get the hell out of there. Don’t confront them, don’t discuss your plans, just leave. Move to another city, preferably far away, change your phone number, and abandon these vampires. Harsh? Yup. Life is harsh sometimes. The longer you stay in your situation, the longer you perpetuate these people’s dependency on you. It is the responsibility of adults to fend for themselves, it is not your problem. Get the fuck outta there. “
Just gtfo, deal with the consequences as they come atleast it will give you something to do besides mope
You need to go to the pub 🙂
No woman? No cry.
“Well..when I read your title I was going to recommend you hang out with my 30 year old brother who doesn’t have women or friends too. Once I read your story….I felt bad about even thinking about suggesting that. I wish I knew what to say to you though to offer some guidance. I used to kind of have the same problem… it was mainly due to the fact that I hated going out and having to “meet” people. I’ve always been more of a “listener” than a talker and never wanted to be the center of attention for that reason. I enjoyed observing. I don’t know how, but I’ve always managed to have a large circle of friends and they’re all the types that go out in groups and have a great time at bars and clubs. I honestly can’t even tell you how I’ve met any of them…lol. I guess one person would introduce me to one person and it would just kinda blossom. I wish you luck though! “